Hello dear readers,
Apologies, I’m a little behind the week mark, I appear to have lost track of time. This week: The Internet. And its myriad possibilities.
So, I’m spilling my secrets. Because online, one has a strange anonymity – one which can be used, or abused; one which can empower, or diminish; one of comfort in a camouflaged mask to strive to protect, or one to reveal in the pixelated daylight of honesty.
I feel that the anonymity provided by an online persona can be innocently exploited; I exploit it myself. But used nefariously, its far-reaching tendrils can creep into the lightest home and darken a mindset, can destroy and ruin and decay. But in the shady corners of cyberspace, uncontrolled and unlit, who is stopping this? Can it be stopped? Should it be stopped – for one user of facelessness for protective purposes may be unmasked and endangered, scrutinised for falsifying, while measures for prevention of internet crimes are a step behind those perpetrators they truly seek? Are we entitled to obscurity, or are we threatened by it?
How strange it is to me, when perusing my site stats, to find 90% of my readers live in North America. How strange that people I’ve never met will read these thoughts cast adrift into the ether by a little woman thousands of miles away in a small village in England. My readers will never see my face, they will never hear my voice or shake my hand, but they are able to read my deepest thoughts, my secrets, things I haven’t told some of my closest friends. Frightening, and liberating. Refreshing, and startling.
You might not know the colour of my eyes, but you know that I had my first kiss when I was nineteen.
You don’t know what my laugh sounds like, but you can know that I am in love with a man who lives over two hundred miles away and who has no idea.
You don’t know how tall I am, but you hear that I have doubts about my career choices which I have never really voiced; I am passionate about biology and nature and conservation, but I realised very recently that I’ve only come this far academically because I was blessed with an impressive memory. I’m not built for science. Analytic thinking is not natural for me. I am artistic, not analytic. And sometimes I wonder where I will end up and whether I will do well, by chance, or whether I will be stuck somewhere in perpetual uncertainty.
Anyone could pass me in the street and not know that I have probed and questioned myself for a long time now, and only recently come to the conclusion that I’m about 70-80% straight (it fluctuates), and I’m finally comfortable with that. And you wouldn’t know that I’ve never told anyone that, and you wouldn’t know I felt that way. You wouldn’t know how I first started questioning and doubting myself at secondary school when my friends would discuss which cute teachers they fancied and I thought I was a complete freak because inwardly I thought a few of the female teachers were hot. But sitting thousands of miles away, with a different time on your clock and different weather pressing against your windows, a little screen in front of you is telling you that about a stranger.
I don’t know whether to be creeped out or exhilarated, liberated. Although right now I’m a bit too numbly tired to feel either, and instead write as I’d write to myself, because through this medium we can connect with like-minds as far away as opposite poles. I like the feeling that there are other people I could meet no other way, who can share my stories as I read theirs, a long-distance exchange which is the other, brighter side of anonymity; that of kinship with strangers and the removal of isolating barriers, and acceptance, and the exchange of opinions and broadening horizons and mutual support.
And, of course, cat videos. Lots and lots of cat videos.
Yours honestly, but not entirely,
Georgie.
In Other News, Vehicular Access Issues
My friend P has made a couple of appearances here before, and no doubt will again. This week’s escapade involves her and a friend going out for coffee. P’s friend drove them there. And when they wandered out of the coffee shop afterwards, and meandered across the car park to come home, P took her eye off the ball for a split second. She opened the car door and was halfway inside it before she looked up – and spotted her friend getting into a different car a few spaces away. Her friend was just looking at her, agape. P was clambering into some random stranger’s car! Apparently they made a quick getaway after that. In their own car, thankfully.